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Justice Kennedy’s big mistake: he just put baby in the corner.

This blog is about marriage and not constitutional law–another topic I pontificate about. I am here going to address Justice Kennedy’s recent opinion in the marriage cases insofar as he discusses what...

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Justice Kennedy’s excessively gloomy news for the unmarried

In his majority opinion in the recent marriage case, Justice Kennedy writes that the traditional (I think almost universal) definition of marriage, with its prerequisite of gender diversity, harms the...

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Beautiful Friday: the Ländler

Today, we feature TWO versions of the Ländler.  The first from the Sound of Music, the second, an excerpt from the Tales from the Vienna Woods, composed by the Waltz King, Johann Strauss Jr. The...

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Why are foreign accents so sexy?

One of the most interesting and widespread facts of mutual attraction is the love of foreign accents.  One sees this affection in both men and women, and in many cultures.  Believe it or not, my...

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How to best safeguard the freedom that is essential to sex and marriage.

I have argued here that marriage, by its nature, is free agreement.  In this respect, marriage reflects one of the primary, nearly universal human inclinations–the inclination to bodily freedom and...

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Beautiful Friday: I’m a Believer

“Pessimism never won any battle,” as President Eisenhower once said.  Makes sense.  If you’re marriage minded, the only way to proceed is with some measure of prudent, sober optimism.  You gotta...

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Review of Getting Hitched

  Crisis Magazine has just published a very flattering review of Getting Hitched. An excerpt: Nothing Upham tells us is at all new. Indeed, that is the entire premise of the book: these truths are old...

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Getting Hitched–Radio interview on Friday , July 17

Readers in Texas, New Mexico, and the D.C. area: I will be on the radio tomorrow morning (July 17) at 8:15 Central/9:15 Eastern, to discuss Getting Hitched.  I’ll be on a Catholic radio network, the...

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Beautiful Friday: polygamy v. monogamy in Desert Song

One of the centuries-old debates has been between polygamy and monogamy.  Many cultures permit and even encourage polygamy (multiple concurrent marriages), usually polygyny (multiple wives) and rarely...

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Is marriage “strange and difficult”? Not really.

  A few days ago, in the New York Times, Ada Calhoun presented a  sober defense of marital fidelity and durability, writing that if you remember the good as well as the bad, and just hold on, your...

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Teen sex rates decline: what if it’s because the sexes don’t like each other...

Over the last quarter century, American teen pregnancy rates have declined dramatically.  Why has this happened?  Well, advocates of both contraceptive and abstinence education, it seems, can...

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Beautiful Friday: The Saptahpadi of the Hindu wedding

This Friday on Beautiful Friday, it’s the Saptahpadi of the Hindu wedding rite. Now before going any further., you speakers of Indo-European languages, especially a Latin language, should be able to...

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Why a pro-marriage culture needs the Cheap Date

If we as a society are serious about encouraging marriage, we should develop courtship rituals that are very inexpensive–yes, very cheap.  I call for “the Cheap Date.” My thesis today is that he...

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Beautiful Friday: Love Theme from Umbrellas of Cherbourg

Today on Beautiful Friday, it’s the very beautiful love theme from “Les parapluies de Cherbourg” [The Umbrellas of Cherbourg].  The music is by Michel Legrand,  The actors are Catherine Deneuve and...

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The Husband, Part I: What is he?

Today I begin a three-part essay on the husband.  As marriage grows obscure, the very concept of “husband” and “wife” have grown obscure.  In relationship-talk, women seem very comfortable speaking of...

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The Husband Part II: What’s he good for?

In Part I, we looked for a definition of “husband.”  I said that a husband could be defined as a man, bound to a dwelling, whose occupants typically include a woman and any of her offspring. In this...

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Beautiful Friday: Baby Mine from Disney’s Dumbo

  Today on Beautiful Friday, it’s “Baby Mine” from the 1941 Disney film, “Dumbo.”  The song’s music is by Frank Churchill, and its lyrics by Ned Washington. This no marriage in this song, no husbands,...

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The Husband, Part III: How can I get one?

So in the two prior posts, we’ve addressed: two questions: (1) What’s a husband? and (2) What’s he good for?  Today I wish to sketch the possible ways to get one of these husbands–assuming that, after...

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If motherhood is bad, that’s pretty much the end of my argument for marriage.

I have argued that the joint education of offspring is the main reason for the chief features of this thing called marriage: its twoness, its male-femaleness, and its indefinite, even lifelong...

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Beautiful Friday: You Can’t Get a Man with a Gun

No, you can’t (for the most part) get a man with a gun.    A husband, if worth it, must be acquired some other way. Just ask Annie Oakley, played by Betty Hutton, singing words and music by Irving...

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